A few weeks back, my boyfriend and I had a furious row.
I was so angry with him that I went out with some of the girls from work; we went to a bar where I met a guy.
My boyfriend and I got back together a couple of days later, but I feel so guilty because I know I went out with someone else.
I don't want to tell my boyfriend as I think he would be very hurt.
Should I tell him do you think?
FC
FIONA SAYS: As you and your boyfriend had separated when you met this man – albeit briefly – then it's debatable whether you are guilty of anything or not.
You have made a mistake and it is one that you may regret for a very long time but, frankly, I feel there is little to be gained by telling him about it.
You'll only make him feel bad too.
That does, however depend on whether (someone else is likely to tell him about it.
If that's the case, then he'll have to know – and better from you than someone else.
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