Mum makes precious memories on final birthday with daughter
Friends and family of terminally ill Gillian Adair have rallied together to make sure her daughter Lilly’s final birthday with her was one in a million.
Gillian (30) has suffered from cancer since she was just 13. However, last month, she was given the devastating news that the cancer in its latest form (Synovial Sarcoma) meant she did not have long to live.
The Derry mum and her partner John had hoped to take Lilly to Disneyland Paris for her fifth birthday last week but with the deterioration that became impossible.
Then just as her dream was fading, friends, Jacqui Clancy and Aine Taylor with Gillian’s sister, Michele Cowan and her mum, Karen Adair stepped in to make sure Lilly’s birthday with her mum would be one to remember.
Ms Clancy said: “As a cancer care volunteer, I’ve worked with and been a friend of Gillian’s since she was just a little girl. When she got the news last month, it wasn’t the bad news that broke her, it was thinking she wouldn’t be able to give Lilly the birthday treat she had planned for.
“I just thought, that shouldn’t happen so if Lilly couldn’t go to Disneyland, then Disney was going to come to Lilly.”
The Derry woman – whose own sister Anna died from cancer – launched a social media campaign seeking help to organise a birthday in a million for Lilly and help flooded in from across the north.
“I knew people would help but nothing prepared us for what we got. We had so much we had to plan secretly so Lilly wouldn’t know what was happening.”
On Lilly’s actual birthday on June 2, there was a Tea Party, complements of Hillybilly Castles and last Thursday, Gillian and Lilly had a “mum and me” Tee-pee Sleep-over. Then for the finale, on Sunday, all the stops were pulled out as Enchanted Princess Parties NI sent five special princesses to make Gillian’s Disney wish come true.
“There was Honeybear Ice-cream, catering, Kidz Kastles and music from Kevin Boyle, the Silver Fox DJ and Enchanted Princess sent a film crew to record everything and local photographer, Gerry Temple captured it all as well. Lilly nearly lost her breath with all the excitement,” Ms Clancy said.
The birthday was a resounding success and created memories which will stay with Lilly forever. But it was emotional and bitter sweet.
“Gillian was upset but we made her pull on the T-shirt and throw herself into the party. She’s too emotional to speak publicly but she said she never wanted to say ‘Goodbye’ to Lilly but was pleased we’ve all be able to create such precious memories.
“We really can’t thank people enough,” Ms Clancy said.
- This article was amended on June 8 2021