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Marie Louise McConville: My kids are becoming independent - leaving me a little lost

A lost tooth has left me feeling a little surplus to requirements
Marie Louise McConville

So, that's that then - surplus to requirements.

I always knew this day would come. I just didn't expect it to be so soon.

Six years ago I took on the most wonderful job in the world when I became a mother for the first time.

Fifteen months later, I was again blessed with another little gift from the heavens and found myself a mother-of-two and while the experience has had its ups and downs, I've loved every single second.

But the thing is, I've been enjoying the experience so much that I never noticed that both my babies were growing up (too fast) and now, it seems we have entered a new chapter in our family life.

Having been on hand to do all things mummy-related for Abbie and James these last six years, it now seems I'm not needed as much.

This week, I had quite the emotional meltdown when James announced after dinner one evening that a tooth had fallen out - his first.

While I should have been jumping around the kitchen with him in excitement, I instead retreated to the bedroom to perform some deep breathing exercises to cope with the fact that my youngest, my baby James, was no longer that.

I know to some losing a tooth is not that big a deal but for a child it is, especially their first as it signals a new stage of childhood.

What made matters worse was that he didn't even need comforted when it happened.

It then dawned on me that lately, they haven't needed me as much.

At ages six and five, they feed themselves, can dress themselves and even do up their own seatbelts in the car (though I always check).

Both have become so independent and while I'm proud, I also feel a little bit redundant.

Suddenly, I feel like the mummy from US sitcom The Goldbergs.

Obsessed by her three children, Beverley lives and breaths her kids and even wears a t-shirt bearing their faces when they're not around.

She constantly interferes in their lives, cuts deals for affection and has even been known to carry out a bit of sabotage in a bid to keep them close and needing her.

I totally get her now and understand the lengths she goes to.

These last few days I've felt a bit lost.

My friends tell me it is a good thing because now I may find myself with a bit of "me time' but to be honest, I don't know what to do with myself and have weirdly turned to word searches to fill time.

I have found myself following the kids around asking for kisses and trying to steal hugs and cuddles here and there - how sad am I?

So, I suppose there's nothing else for it now.

It's time to start looking for that all important retirement home.

Maybe I'll take up chair yoga and watch re-runs of Murder She Wrote.

Come to think of it, it doesn't sound that bad.

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Music legend Suggs has revealed he's been singing to strangers at bus stops during the Covid-19 lockdown as he has been unable to play for fans.

However, the 60-year-old performer, who is front man of band Madness, revealed the strangers have been less than enthusiastic for his free gigs.

Speaking recently, the House of Fun singer said: "It's been a horrendous year for the performer - especially someone as big-headed as me.... because I was singing at people at bus stops and shelters.

"They were running away as they saw me coming towards them, going `here he comes again'."

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There's great news this week for fans of Friends as the wait is almost over for the much-anticipated reunion special.

Friends: The Reunion will be available on the HBO Max streaming service from May 27 after the sitcom's original cast were able to film together last month.

And, in a bid to build on the excitement, a trailer for the reunion was been released which shows the main six actors walking together to a melodic version of iconic theme tune `I'll Be There For You' by The Rembrandts.

A caption then teases the special as: `The One Where They Get Back Together'.

All six members of the original cast - Matthew Perry (Chandler), Jennifer Aniston (Rachel), Courteney Cox (Monica), Lisa Kudrow (Phoebe), Matt LeBlanc (Joey) and David Schwimmer (Ross) - have taken part.

They will feature alongside other supporting stars including Maggie Wheeler (Janice), James Michael Tyler (Gunther), Reese Witherspoon (Jill) and Tom Selleck (Richard), as well as Elliott Gould and Christina Pickles, who played Ross and Monica's parents, Jack and Judy.

Filming for the special took take place last month in California, in front of a live audience.

Now, we just wait for news as to how us guys over here on this side of the pond can see it - fingers crossed it won't be long.

***Competitions will return in the coming weeks

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