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Marie Louise McConville: Busybodies should keep their unwanted parenting advice to themselves

No thanks - Marie Louise would rather people would keep their unwanted opinions and advice to themselves

I really can't stand busybodies.

To me, people who nosy and interfere in other people's lives are just pathetic and sad.

Personally, I tend to keep my business private and don't involve myself in other people's lives - so no interfering, offering unsolicited opinions or unwanted advice.

I remember when I first became a parent, everyone and anyone thought it was ok to tell me how to do things and correct me when they deemed I was doing something wrong.

More often than not I wanted to tell them to clear off but having been raised with manners, I simply smiled and moved on.

This week I found myself back in that unwanted spotlight, receiving unwanted advice from a total stranger who thought it was ok to preach to me and my child.

Waiting to pay for shopping in the local supermarket with Abbie - who has just turned three - someone I do not know thought it was perfectly fine to tell her that she shouldn't be sucking a dummy.

Now, let me tell you something about Abbie. She gave all her dummies to Santa at Christmas, except for one and now knows that if she loses this one, there are no more and she's fine with that.

However, when this lady made her comments to Abbie, I was so angry. Who does she think she is?

To be honest, I was on the verge of going off on her but didn't as Abbie was beside me. Instead, after I gave her a long, cold stare, I moved on.

What I should have said was: 'What business is it of yours?' or `Who made you the expert?' and I should have finished by telling her to keep her unwanted opinions to herself.

But I didn't. However, not 20 minutes later, in another shop, it happened again.

Another lady thought it was ok to tell Abbie that she shouldn't be sucking a dummy but this time, I looked and her and said: 'Did your children not suck a dummy then?' to which she replied: `I don't have any children'.

Really?

So why then do you think it's acceptable to preach to me about my children and my parenting?

I'll tell you why, because you're an interfering busybody.

Don't get me wrong, I know Abbie has to give up her dummy and so does she and by Easter, she will have done so but that's our business

And there must be something in the air because former TOWIE star, Ferne McCann, who became a mother to daughter, Sunday, just two months ago, has also recently spoken out about being constantly scrutinised as a mother.

The 27-year-old who said her sole focus in life is keeping her little baby 'healthy and happy' revealed that she is 'sick of women being judged continuously and, as a new mum, I have never felt so judged. Being a new mum is pressure enough without having my every move scrutinised and falsified.'

And she's right.

No-one has the right to judge someone else, especially someone's parenting and especially someone who has no children.

So busybodies of world, do us a favour and keep your opinions to yourself.

I don't care if you think my baby should be sleeping through the night by now or if you think my child really should be walking by now or if you're adamant that rash on my son's cheek is foot and mouth - keep it zipped.

I know what is best for my child - not you.

The other day I saw a picture of a baby on a clothing website who was wearing a bodysuit bearing the message `My mummy doesn't want your advice'.

I thought it was brilliant.

So, if you'll just excuse me, I'm off to do some shopping for the kids.

Maybe I could get a t-shirt too - `I don't want your advice'.

Clear enough?

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Easy Peasy Recipe

This week's Easy Peasy Recipe is Easy Potato Bake

You will need:

4 potatoes sliced

300g diced bacon

1 diced onion

300ml cream

2 cups grated cheese

To Make:

In a greased, ovenproof dish spread a layer of potatoes over the base.

Add layers of diced onion, bacon, cream and a handful of cheese.

Continue with the layering until the dish is full, finishing the top layer with a grated cheese

Cook at 180 degrees celsius or gas Mark 4 for 25 minutes or until top has turned golden brown

Do you have an Easy Peasy recipe you would like to share?

Are you the queen of quiches, magnificent at muffins or can you turn out some nice scones?

If so, then we want to hear from you.

You can send your name, address, contact number and recipe (plus photo if possible) to:

Easy Peasy Recipes,

Marie Louise McConville,

Irish News

113-117 Donegall Street,

Belfast,

BT1 2GE

or

m.mcconville@irishnews.com

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