I HAVE always thought my husband was honest, so I was deeply hurt when he was found guilty of stealing from his employer.
I was also shocked to learn he had a criminal record for similar offences.
He has just started a one-year prison sentence and I just don't know how I am going to cope.
This is the first time anything like this has happened in my family and I am very embarrassed and hurt by it.
What I am going to say to my parents, I just don't know.
I do still love him and want to visit him, but am terrified of going to the prison.
Please, I just don't know who to turn to for help.
LC
FIONA SAYS: I'm so sorry, I am sure this must be very upsetting for you.
Finding out someone you love and trust is not who and what you thought they were is shocking.
There is help available though.
Action for Prisoners' and Offenders' Families merged with Family Lives (familylives.org.uk) a couple of years ago, but they still help families affected by imprisonment.
They will help you understand what to expect when you visit your husband.
You and your children have done nothing wrong and you shouldn't be punished for your husband's crimes.
Your parents may be shocked, but I'm sure they won't blame you.
Over the coming weeks and months, your love and loyalty may be tested.
If you want to give your husband another chance, it's important that he's honest with you.
You may need relationship counselling when he comes out of prison, so do please write to me again if you think you need more help.
If you have a problem you can email me, Fiona Caine, at help@askfiona.net
