I'VE always struggled to find a job I really like and so have usually just taken the first one that's come along in order to pay the bills.
Two months ago, though, I found my perfect job – or so I thought.
It really suits me and I'd love to work at it and make a go of it, but my problem is with one of the supervisors.
He keeps making passes at me, touching me and saying things I don't want to repeat.
If I ignore him he gets angry with me, and although I'd like to tell him how I feel, I'm worried about losing my job.
I don't want to leave, but I may have to.
YG
FIONA SAYS: More than half of all women have suffered sexual harassment in the workplace, but just because it's common doesn't make it acceptable!
This man is abusing his position of authority and his behaviour is completely unacceptable – it's also illegal.
You have a right to work without experiencing this kind of harassment and your employer has a duty to protect you, so the Human Resources department, if there is one, should act for you.
You may feel uncomfortable approaching them though, so if there is a Trade Union where you work, please join it and talk to them about the problem.
You could also talk to ACAS (the Advisory, Conciliation and Arbitration Service, www.acas.org.uk) which has an advice line you can call in confidence.
If you want to talk face to face to someone, contact your local Citizens Advice for support and help in deciding what to do.
Please don't put up with this for a moment longer; your supervisor is breaking the law and is relying on you being too new and shy to protest.
SHE WON'T LEAVE US ALONE
Even though we've been together for eight years, I find it hard to cope with my partner's daughter.
She's 15 and has few friends, so wants to be with us all the time.
This has got worse as she's got older – she's always interrupting us and, most mornings she knocks on our bedroom door for something or other – usually something very trivial.
My partner thinks I resent her and refuses to deal with it, but recently he prepared an intimate dinner and she insisted on joining us.
I've tried to be reasonable but I really feel there's something wrong with her and I've had enough.
RR
FIONA SAYS: You say you're being reasonable, but what exactly are you suggesting?
What is he supposed to do with his daughter at those times when you don't want her around?
I would have thought that, having been with your partner and his daughter for eight years, you would realise what it means to have children around; you can't just dismiss them!
Having said that, she is old enough to understand the need for a couple (even parents) to have some privacy.
Could your partner suggest, for a start, that perhaps she shouldn't need to disturb you quite so much in the mornings?
On other occasions, I'm afraid you'll either have to learn to cope with her being around, or cease to be around yourself.
The fact the girl has few friends does indicate she may be unhappy and, rather than trying to dismiss her, try to help her find out why.
If you can't do that and can't cope – well, you say you've had enough, so maybe it's time to move on.
I CAN'T FIND MY SON
My son went missing two years ago – he'll be 19 now and his dad, younger brother and I are desperate to find him.
I have tried Social Services and I've tried circulating his picture on social media, but I don't know where else to look.
I am desperate and can't stop crying – I just don't know how to tell my younger son that I've failed to find his brother.
TM
FIONA SAYS: What a terrible situation to have to deal with.
You don't explain why your son left home; was there a row, was he made to leave?
I'm not trying to judge here but, if he left home because he was angry or upset about something, he might not want to be traced.
If he doesn't want to be found, I'm afraid, it is going to be very difficult to track him down.
You don't say whether you've used any agencies other than social services but it may be they've traced him and he refuses to allow them to tell you anything.
He's an adult now and it's his decision whether or not he makes contact with you.
Missing People (www.missingpeople.org.uk) might be able to help you – even if they cannot find your son, they understand what you are going through and can support you and your family.
If you think there is any chance he has gone abroad, I would suggest you also contact the Salvation Army (www.salvationarmy.org) who trace people worldwide.
What you are going through is devastating.
I hope your son is safe and well and that he makes contact with you again soon.
I WET THE BED
I'm so embarrassed at having to admit to this, but I'm 19 and still wet the bed.
This stops me leading a normal life; I never went on sleepovers as a kid and I've never stayed overnight with friends now I'm an adult.
I've never been away on holiday either and I've had to turn down two training course my work has wanted to send me on as they were residential.
I've had boyfriends but I've never been intimate, just in case I have an accident – I'd be mortified.
When I was 14 my parents took me to a doctor who assured me I'd eventually grow out of it.
Well, five years on, I haven't and it's ruining my life.
MC
FIONA SAYS: There is a medical term for your problem – it's enuresis.
It's a lot more common in adults than you might expect and affects about one person in every hundred.
For some adults, bladder control is a problem that comes and goes – perhaps linked with an illness or stress.
For others, like yourself, it can be a persistent problem that goes back over many years and can be due to a pattern of behaviour established from an early age.
Alternatively – or perhaps as well – there may be a physical problem, but, whatever the cause, you won't know until you go back and see a doctor.
There is a lot a doctor can do to help you – from bed-wetting alarms to medication.
When you see your GP, explain that this is a long-term problem (not something that has just started to happen), and ask for help and a possible referral to a consultant urologist.
Please don't let this problem control your life any longer.
