Ask Fiona: I'm attracted to my friend - am I gay?
Columnist and trained counsellor Fiona Caine advises a woman upset that her widowed dad has moved on so fast
I'M 16 and when I split with my girlfriend before Christmas, I turned to one of my mates for help. He really seemed to understand how I felt, but the thing is I think I'm now attracted to him. I think about him all the time and can't wait to be with him; I've even had fantasies about sleeping with him.
I don't understand why this is happening because I've always been attracted to girls before. Am I gay? And if so, how am I going to cope with my parents?
How can dad move on so soon after losing mum?
MY MUM died in August last year and my dad was devastated, as they were so close. She was only 67 and was sitting next to him in a chair when she had a heart attack and died. It was a shock to us all, but what has been even more shocking is the way my dad has behaved since.
He said at the funeral that mum was the love of his life, so we are finding it really hard to understand the fact that he started dating a lady in November – just nine weeks later. It's not even like she's an old friend or something – he met her online.
She seems like a nice person, although she's older than him, but my brother, sister and I feel so angry with my dad. How can he get over losing our mum quite so quickly?
SAVING FOR A HOUSE IS KILLING OUR RELATIONSHIP
MY FIANCE and I decided we'd marry as soon as we could afford to buy a home of our own. We had a great relationship but, over the past year, it has deteriorated badly. My fiance works such long hours to save his money and now, when we get together, he's so tired he just wants to fall asleep in front of the TV.
If I try to encourage him to go out, he just gets grumpy about spending money and because he's so tired, our love life is suffering too. I just want to go back to when we were happy together – even if that means we can't afford a house.
TERRIFIED OF GETTING HURT AGAIN
I FELL apart when I split up with my boyfriend two years ago, and I took drugs for a while, as well as sleeping around. I'm clean now but I seem to have gone the other way, where relationships are concerned.
I've lost all my confidence and have put up barriers to my family and friends. If anyone tries to get close to me, I push them away because I don't want to go through that sort of hurt again – I'm terrified it would tip me over the edge. I feel like I'm in a prison and can't see a way out – I'm so lonely and depressed all the time.