Michelle Heaton's six top tips for coping with the menopause
Pop singer Michelle Heaton began going through the menopause at just 33 after having surgery. She tells Gabrielle Fagan how she wants to help other women experiencing 'the change'
MICHELLE Heaton has experienced emotional turbulence since she entered the menopause when she was only 33 as a consequence of preventative surgery – a double mastectomy and hysterectomy – to reduce her cancer risk; the TV personality and singer with pop band Liberty X carries the BRCA so-called 'cancer gene' mutation.
Here's her advice on how to cope:
1. Keep a diary
"I now realise that having a space to unburden myself, as well as a document of my experience, would have been incredibly emotionally beneficial in my recovery," Heaton, now aged 38, says. "So whether you're in early menopause or about to undergo surgical menopause, record your feelings and emotions in the run-up and during it – I promise it will help you. I didn't and I wish I had. If I'd been able to keep track of those waves of emotion, they'd maybe have been less scary, and that record would have given me a perspective on what was happening."
2. Get the knowledge
"Ask whatever questions you want or need answers to. It's such an uncertain and unpredictable time. Your emotions can change hourly and that's exhausting in itself. Not to mention the fact you'll never, ever know what reactions and behaviours are really, truly you, and what reactions and behaviours are because your emotions are in free fall and you might not have the right cocktail of HRT sorted yet," she points out.
"You're not expected to come through this unscathed, so don't pretend you are. There are occupational therapists, doctors, nurses, physiotherapists – use their expertise as much as possible. Only by arming yourself with as much knowledge as you can muster will you be able to come to terms with menopause and what it might mean for your future. Don't be afraid of being scared and vulnerable, it's normal."
3. Build up a sweat
"I've always needed my gym time, but never more so than in menopause. It's my safe haven and has saved me from myself constantly. My emotions are never on a level and I can lose my temper far more easily since the menopause. So, if I feel my mood's negative and the rage is building, I'll go for a workout – we have a gym at the bottom of the garden – and leave Hugh to deal with the kids," she explains.
"Researchers at the Research Institute for Sport and Exercise Sciences at Liverpool John Moores University found women in menopause who undertook regular workouts for a period of four months, reduced the frequency and intensity of their hot flushes."
4. Change your diet
"With a change in hormones, metabolism slows down. Menopausal women don't need as many calories as pre-menopausal women. Losing weight takes longer than normal too," she points out. "Metabolic changes during this time make women's bodies more sensitive to carbohydrates and sugars, which can mean you become more insulin-resistant."
Experts suggest women in menopause need around 200 calories a day less than women in their 20s, she says, and an average woman gains between 5lb and 7lb during menopause. "I certainly gained around that and have to work hard to keep it off. So, if you've already got lots of carbs and sugars in your diet, you're unknowingly promoting fat storage which is hard to shift. "
5. Tell your boss
"Whether you're at the start of your journey or in the middle of it, if you haven't told your workplace, now is the time to do so," she advises. "It won't be easy, but without them knowing about it, they can't support you. You have rights as an employee gong through a long-term health condition and those rights need to be upheld.
"Arrange a meeting with your line manager and get HR along too, and see where you go from there. If you suffer hot flushes which disturb your sleep and make you tired, it may be you could request flexible working hours, and possibly have some consideration on temperature settings in your area."
6. Make time for you
"In menopause, it's so easy to get lost and feel like you're drowning. Setting aside some time every day, just for you, will do wonders for your emotional wellbeing, whether it's reading a good book or calling a friend for a chat," she says.
"What's important is that you set aside some time daily where you are priority number one, and nothing and no-one else can interfere. It doesn't have to be long. I'm a better wife and mother on the days where I prioritise myself a little bit at the start or the end of the day."
:: Hot Flush: Motherhood, The Menopause And Me by Michelle Heaton, is published by Michael O'Mara Books, priced £18.99.