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Ask Fiona: My boyfriend doesn't love me anymore

Columnist and trained counsellor Fiona Caine offers her perspective on family dramas, emotional issues and dysfunctional relationships

Sometimes relationships come to a natural end and both people involved need to move on
Sometimes relationships come to a natural end and both people involved need to move on Sometimes relationships come to a natural end and both people involved need to move on
By Fiona Caine

MY boyfriend and I have been going out for three years now.

I'm still with him, even though he has told me that he doesn't love me and won't marry me.

We argue a lot these days and he says we should call it a day, but, if I then tell him to go, he says that if we're going to finish, I've got to do it.

But why should I?

I don't understand why he just doesn't end it – it's as if he can't leave me.

I think he should be the one to do it.

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FIONA SAYS: Have I got this right?

You are both trapped in a loveless, uncaring non-relationship that is causing pain for both sides – yet neither of you will finish it because you want the other person to take the first step?

Does this not strike you as just a bit daft?

Come on you two – grow up and move on. Life is too short to waste it like this.

If you have a problem you can email me, Fiona Caine, at help@askfiona.net