The Bluffer uses his heart and not his head
The Bluffer is happy person, content in the knowledge that he is giving pleasure to the masses.
There are many words for happy in Irish - sona, sásta up to lúcháireach, which is when you are positively joyous. However, not everyone is the same and Dr. Mark Atkinson, author of True Happiness: Your Complete Guide to Emotional Health has some advice.
“Ná creid gach a smaoiníonn tú - don't believe everything you think”, he says. “Eh?” says I. “One of the most important causes of míshástacht - unhappiness, is living in your head and taking seriously the stories that your head creates,” he says.
“Most of what we think isn't true. A simple and quick way to disengage any stressful story that your head is making up is to notice the smaoineamh diúltach - negative thought. For example, “there's no way I can learn Irish.” Say that stressful thought out loud (or in your head) very slowly, leaving a few seconds gap between each word,” he advises.
“Tarraing d'anáil go fadalach - breathe slowly and repeat two to three times, notice how it starts to open up a sense of inner spaciousness and balance. You can also use this tool to free yourself from any negative belief you have about yourself.”
Amharc amach ó do chroí - look out from your heart.
This is particularly good if you have an over-active mind or are worrying a lot, says Dr. Atkinson.
“Drop your attention into the area of your heart and look at the world from your heart rather than head. Notice how this instantly shifts your experience,” he says. Experiment with spending a whole day in your heart and also try it out when you are with your partner and friends and notice how it shifts the way you feel towards them.
“Work with - rather than against - your emotions.” (Na mothúcháin are the emotions.)
One of the keys to true happiness is to shift from a focus on feeling good to getting good at feeling, he says.
“As you learn how to welcome all emotions equally, including fearg - anger, brón - sadness and eagla - fear, and extraordinary and surprising thing happens - you start to feel at peace despite what you are feeling.”
Tap into the power of buíochas - gratitude.
“Each day, think of two things you are grateful for and then two thing you appreciate about yourself. Allow yourself to feel and experience the gratitude for at lease 30 seconds and notice how much better you feel,” he says.
Practice áireachas - mindfulness. To be mindful simply means to be airdeallach - alert to your experiences with an attitude of glacadh - acceptance and fiosracht - curiosity.
“When you are doing daily rituals, notice what is around you and then what you hear, then what you feel. If you do this regularly, you will start to notice how relaxing and grounding this is.”
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sona (sunna) - happy
sásta (saasta) - pleased
lúcháireach (lookhaarakh) - joyous
Ná creid gach a smaoiníonn tú (na credge gakh a smweeneean tu) - don't believe everything you think
míshástacht (meehastakht) - unhappiness
smaoineamh diúltach (smweenoo jooltakh) - negative thought
Tarraing d'anáil go fadalach (taring danal gaw fadalakh) - breathe slowly
Amharc amach ó do chroí (arc amakh o daw khree) - look out from your heart
na mothúcháin (me mohukhaan) - the emotions
fearg (farag) - anger
brón (brone) - sadness
eagla (ugla) - fear
buíochas (bweekakhiss) - gratitude
áireachas (iyrahiss) - mindfulness
airdeallach (arjalakh) -
glacadh (glacoo) - acceptance
fiosracht (fisrakht) - curiosity